[magdalena]

Some parrots, especially older ones will have a definite gender preference. If they have had bad experience with men they will take longer to warm up to them and vice versa. Maybe yours bonded with her female caretaker in the past. Bribery seems to work well with shy birds.

My adopted 7 year old grey loves me to pieces but will only now just tolerate my boyfriend without shaking in fear after 3 months of being here. He is careful to move slowly around her and give her treats and she will give him kisses on command now before bed. She will step up to him (and anyone I think) but it took a while for her to do it without shaking. Good luck!