Well let's see here.... Jiffy Lube could take care of the oil changes, the 9 year old should be strong enough to handle the trash in another year or so and some softbilled birds eat spiders.... You're all set!

Of course if the hubs is good for any other things, like flowers and dinner in your favorite restaurant occasionally, then you might run into a bit of trouble.

Its a tough choice I'm sure. :-\