[jenseits]

My advice would be to not to give her opportunities to bite -- don't let her on your shoulder, don't offer her your finger for now.

She's trying to communicate something to you when she's biting. Could be that she's scared, angry or even just that she wants your attention. Your daughter needs to teach her that there's no reason to be scared, that you are her friend not her captor, and that there are better ways to communicate what she wants than biting.

If you keep pushing her and ignoring what she's trying to tell you, she's only going to start biting harder and harder, which obviously won't improve the relationship.

I'm a huge fan of positive reinforcement, not punishment or flooding (which is basically where you bully her into submission). Do some research on clicker training. The basic premise is that by teaching your bird "stupid parlor tricks" you improve how you interact with her, which has the positive side benefit of teaching her she doesn't need to bite.

The first things you teach via clicker training can be done without putting yourself in a position to get bitten.

It doesn't happen overnight. But it worked for me and my sun conure - he was a rescue and very unfriendly when I got him. We've completely changed our relationship through clicker training.

Hope that helps.