Look what Jasper just did to me

[mmr]

you deffinetly need to give it more time before you give up! 1 month isn't anything. That is like 1 minute to a parrot. Give it some more time

[savagem13]

I am so very confused this morning. I got about 5 replies to my craigslist listing--two wanting to adopt Jasper, and the other three giving encouragement regarding letting him settle in longer and how to gain his trust. Anna--thank you for understanding where I'm coming from right now. I'm not sure what I'm going to do at this point. One of the responders from CL sounded really good--a man who had good luck taming an aggressive sun conure, and is looking for another bird. I know that a sun doesn't compare to an amazon. But I'm thinking maybe because it's a man, Jasper would trust him more? Soooo confused!

The thing is, when I got Jasper I wasn't looking for a project. I was told he was hand-tamed, and that he was friendly once he got away from his cage. Well, he's not. Maybe he will be eventually, but this isn't what I was looking for. Maybe it's selfish, but I don't know if I'm prepared to deal with who Jasper turned out to be? And if that's the case, I feel he is better off being moved into a more suitable home before he has the chance to let down his guard and start to feel like he can trust again.

[red192]

I agree that a month isn't long enough, but ONLY YOU know if it's right and if it doesn't feel right, don't force it.

I have an IRN who is the devil but I love her so much. When she's a sweet little darling I couldn't ask for better, but she knows me and I know her and we fit just fine. I could pluck her bald some days (CALM DOWN PEOPLE I WOULDN'T DARE!) but she and I were made for each other. Aggression and all.

Follow your heart and gut, not your guilt. Do what you think is best for Jasper. Good Luck.

[birdymomma]

I agree with needing more time i have had jesse for little over a month and still cant really hold him if he wants me to he will come pick me up but there is still not that total bond but things ARE getting better...he let me know that he is my bird in a VERY WEIRD way...hubby brought his double yellow home and i was trying to hold stanley (double yellow0 and then i went over to jesse and jesse who NEVER had tried to bite ANYONE lunged and bit me not hard but still....it did hurt now jesse still chews and it does get painful but we are learning that it is not appropriate to chew on mom. it just may take some time....but it's YOU'RE call....there is NO shame in rehoming a biter...i am rehoming my cockatoo after he bit my hubby in the face twice and tried nailing me....remember you know what is best for you and your bird super hugz from us

[savagem13]

Thank you everyone, for all of the kind words. This is a really tough decision, as all are that involve a living creature. I'm responding to craigslist inquiries, but will only rehome Jasper if I feel really right about the new home. In the meantime, I will make use of all the good advice I've gotten.

[FoxersArtist]

Why don't you invite the man over to meet Jasper? You don't have to commit to anything. Just have him over and do your best to observe Jasper. He may or may not react but if he does react, you will know right away what his preference is. Even if he doesn't react at all, take as much time as YOU need to make the decision you feel is right. Other people may feel like they deserve an answer right away but you deserve to have as much time as you need to think it through and Jasper is your bird right now.
-Anna

Originally Posted by savagem13

I am so very confused this morning. I got about 5 replies to my craigslist listing--two wanting to adopt Jasper, and the other three giving encouragement regarding letting him settle in longer and how to gain his trust. Anna--thank you for understanding where I'm coming from right now. I'm not sure what I'm going to do at this point. One of the responders from CL sounded really good--a man who had good luck taming an aggressive sun conure, and is looking for another bird. I know that a sun doesn't compare to an amazon. But I'm thinking maybe because it's a man, Jasper would trust him more? Soooo confused!

The thing is, when I got Jasper I wasn't looking for a project. I was told he was hand-tamed, and that he was friendly once he got away from his cage. Well, he's not. Maybe he will be eventually, but this isn't what I was looking for. Maybe it's selfish, but I don't know if I'm prepared to deal with who Jasper turned out to be? And if that's the case, I feel he is better off being moved into a more suitable home before he has the chance to let down his guard and start to feel like he can trust again.

[Oscars Mom]

Id have the guy who knows the situation and wants him come meet the bird and see if its a good fit.Id suggest you go to petfinders .com which has an adoption site and kijiji.com both sites are WAY better than craigslist for annimals .

[Sprecker]

I agree with both sides of the story. If you feel you can get along with the fid eventually and have the time for the work involved do it. It will be really rewarding in the end. If you feel that it will only be a half arsed atempt due to their not being a "click" between you, then go ahead with the rehomeing.
I have a senegal that was really sweet when I first picked her up but when I broght her/him home s/he got all bitty and reserved. I worked with her and never gave up. I took about 6 months until s/he came around. Now s/he is one of the nicest bird I have. I doubt it would be the same if I didn't make the time to allow him/her to adjust and let her know I am not a threat but rather a friend.
Good luck and either decision you make will be the right one.

[birdymomma]

Originally Posted by Sprecker

I agree with both sides of the story. If you feel you can get along with the fid eventually and have the time for the work involved do it. It will be really rewarding in the end. If you feel that it will only be a half arsed atempt due to their not being a "click" between you, then go ahead with the rehomeing.
I have a senegal that was really sweet when I first picked her up but when I broght her/him home s/he got all bitty and reserved. I worked with her and never gave up. I took about 6 months until s/he came around. Now s/he is one of the nicest bird I have. I doubt it would be the same if I didn't make the time to allow him/her to adjust and let her know I am not a threat but rather a friend.
Good luck and either decision you make will be the right one.

I am jealous! i ahd a african grey that happened with and she NEVER did let me hold her ever again without me getting very badly injured but hubby holds her and loves on her

[savagem13]

I had invited the guy to come over, but he doesn't think $400.00 is fair for Jasper. I paid $500, and then spent another $170 on vet care, not to mention the money I spent on his new accessories. So, though I'd love to give this guy a chance, it sticks in my craw that he thinks I should hand Jasper over for $200.00, including his cage. I don't think he could touch a hand-fed, fully-vetted, perfect feather, young amazon parrot, with cage, for $200, regardless of temperament. I've never even seen a breeder selling for that little. So I'm not sure what to do now...I want what's best for Jasper, but I don't want to feel like I'm being taken advantage of either.