Look what Jasper just did to me

[savagem13]

He got me good. And he wasn't near his cage, and he wasn't flaring his tail. I think I made a mistake with this one. Maybe I should find a better home for him before he has a chance to settle in? I'm in tears as I write this. It hurts--my arm and my feelings.

I let him walk around the house when I was vacuuming. He looked at me with his big eyes, like he wanted me for comfort. I walked toward him, and he lunged and bit my leg. This bird is just plain mean!

[my-africangrey-echo]

How long have you had him?

[savagem13]

I just posted another thread about him earlier today. I adopted him a little over a month ago, sight unseen. Big mistake. If I had gone to meet Jasper, I would have decided against him, as I don't feel any connection with him. You know that connection you feel with the "right" bird? I posted him on Craigslist just now. I will see if anyone is interested, but I will choose a new home carefully. I'm pretty sure Jasper prefers men, and I'd hate for him to get settled in here and then get rehomed again. I'm pretty sure I bit off more than I can chew with this bird.

Wanted to add that I felt that connection with Polly, the Goffins I adopted about a year ago, and she is my little love. And I felt that connection with Optimus, the grey I recently adopted. He plucks, and he's not beautiful, but he has a wonderful personality, and we really "clicked" as soon as I met him.

[ndeben]

You did not tell us where you are located.

[savagem13]

Sorry--I'm in Connecticut. Anyone interested in a gorgeous, but fiesty 'zon?

[my-africangrey-echo]

You may need to give him more time to adjust to you. He is probably still weary of his new world.
Maybe someone here can help you out.

[kellywess]

A month is not enough time for him to settle in. Zons take a bit more time usually because they tend to bond to one person. If I were you I would not even be attemtping to allow him out of the cage as of yet... surely not when the vacumn cleaner is running. This probably caused alot of excitement in still a farely strange place and he was scared of the vacumn. You got too close, so he bit you instead. He needs time to be left alone physically so he can adjust, I would suggest spending some time just talking to him so that he gets used to you and starts to accept you coming near his cage. I am assuming that since you have other birds that he is being quarentined. I personally think you may be pushing things a little too fast for Jasper. I dont think he is mean, just scared. His whole world has been changed and everything he knew is gone. Please dont give up on him.

[savagem13]

I just moved Jasper out of quarantine after just over a month. He has had a full vet workup and testing.

[ndeben]

I think you should give him more time to settle down.

[FoxersArtist]

I think you should follow your heart. We always want these things to work out and sometimes they just don't. I think that it is very honorable to know when you are in over your head and cannot do justice to someone or something in your care. I think it is still possible to see a change in jasper but that would require a lot of work on your part as well as on his and even then, there is no promise that you will have a wonderful relationship. I think that the very most important thing you can do in this situation is to find a home where Jasper does seem to have a connection or find someone who is very skilled at working with hormonal amazons. Sometimes we allow appeasing our own guilt or feelings of failure to overide our intuition and I always commend people who are willing to do what is best for the birds over what feels most comfortable for themselves. Please let me know if I can help in any way.
-Anna