B&G baby update.....!!!!!

[Suz Stickville]

Well ... the visit went reeealy well for me..

The baby and I had NO problems... enjoyed cuddling... it got to that point..

Thanks for the beak rub advise......

The problem is that the baby prefers me to BF ......

BF has lost his heart to this bird and .... the bird igores him whenever it can see/hear me

The Bf is now talking about the polebarn , new trany for 4 wheel dirve truck and parts for Harley again...... almost saw this man cry when baby would NOT go to him when it could get to me.....

The baby was sweet... I got over my fear of macaw ( at least with young ones) ...... but the bird did not tug at my heart strings...

BF is sooo upset .... I don't know what to do....

I am afraid that if I go ahead and get bird .... that it will just distroy BF if the baby keeps turning back on him....

I CAN come up with the extra $ ..... but .... is it woth hurting the man I love if the bird choses me .... and I really don't feel any connection with bird....

I feel a strong connection with tiels... the G&B baby is sweety ... but ... the connection is just not there...

HELP!!!...

SUZ

[Machelle]

what a bummer!! I'm sorry sorry that your bf is so hurt. If you do not feel any connection to the bird, then you shouldn't get thim. Its still possible for you to get him and be your bf bird but it will take a little work. My amazon preferred my husband over me at first and now he's a total mama's boy. It really would be best for your bf to find another bird that is as attracted to him and he is to it. He should keep looking. Sometimes it takes a bit for the right fit. He'll find it.

[cfulhage]

If he really loves this bird & with the connection you described them having, then there is nothing wrong with bringing her home, and having him be the one who takes care of her. You take care of your tiels since you don't love this macaw, and he takes care of his B&G. With time, I'm sure the baby would rely soley on your bf for loves and cuddles, especially since they seemed perfect for each other before.

[pinkparrot]

I think your bf should spent some more time with the bird. birds will "usually"
like the person who spends the most time with them.

[Suz Stickville]

He was looking at that baby ... like it was his own child ... filppin him the bird.... and not with a feather

He is still interested.... his heart is just hurt...

We will go back and visit a couple of more times... just to see what happens..

Suz

[Quito's Qage]

I think *he* should go back and visit the baby some more. If you're there its only going to make it more difficult for him to connect with the baby. You already know that the little fid seems to instinctively go to you if you're around. If your boyfriend decides to get the little feller, you know you're going to have to pretty much stay out of the picture, right? Otherwise it's just not going to work for your boyfriend, and it'll end up being your bird.

[radiogirl995]

I couldn't agree more!
You need to stop bonding with this bird. Cut all ties. Allow your BF to go in alone and spend quality time with the B&G.
And Camille is right, you have your tiels, when the baby comes home ignore it and let BF do everything.

[tamaran2]

Suz,
Your bf could get this bird, do EVERYTHING for this bird and their are no guarantee that the bird will love him more. You could get this bird do EVERYTHING for this bird and then it loves your bf more. Bird make choices and they change those sometimes. It's a crap shoot really. You can't make it love one more that the other, the bird WILL make his own choice. Your bf needs to understand that about ALL birds. JMO, if you BOTH don't want the bird then don't get it. What happens if you get the bird, it does bond with bf and life happens, he gets sick, changes jobs, needs to be away for a while, see things in life will change on a dime sometimes, but if it is not both your bird then what?

[The Outlaw]

The other problem is this: when the novelty wears off and the work starts to pile up, will he be willing to continue caring for it? Will you resent doing the dirty work? And, if it turns out to be really noisy, how will you handle it? I know you don't have close neighbors, but as Barb can readily tell you, they can be really rotten. A screaming unhappy macaw makes everyone miserable.

I'm all about placing these guys in proper homes, but I just don't feel you want to share your home with one. I just don't have that excited feeling in your posts. Its more apprehension.

[Suz Stickville]

Originally Posted by The Outlaw

The other problem is this: when the novelty wears off and the work starts to pile up, will he be willing to continue caring for it?

I will be doing cage/playstand cleaning and food prep......

Originally Posted by Outlaw

Will you resent doing the dirty work?

Maybe... just got a good view of a macaw poop earlier ... one macaw poop = 1 days worth of 2 tiels poop.....

Originally Posted by Outlaw

And, if it turns out the be really noisy, how will you handle it? I know you don't have close neighbors, but as Barb can readily tell you, they can be really rotten. A screaming unhappy macaw makes everyone miserable.

I'm all about placing these guys in proper homes, but I just don't feel you want to share your home with one. I just don't have that excited feeling in your posts. Its more apprehension.

We went for another visit earlier ... together ... after picking up one of the pairs of new glasses....

We walked in together .... baby could not decide which one of us to go to first..... BF let me handle baby first .... then I gave him a few "pointers" on how to handle a bird.... felt like an idiot doing this (first big bird that I have handled) ... but just used the bird common scense that I have learned with tiels.... and advise on handling baby macaw form bb......

The baby and BF were more comfortable when BF took advise...

I will NOT be going with BF for further visits .....

The B&G baby has been at this pet store for 6 weeks ... a decission does not need to be made today ... or even this week....

Will let BF think more on this ... have advised him of changes that would need to be made to house ... routine etc......

I am afraind of the the "new" wearing off with BF ..... brought this up to him just a few min ago ... after reading Nancy's post.....

Gave him more to think on ....

What will be ... will be ....

Suz