Need advice please(long)

[sweetie&meli]

Hi all,

I havent been on this forum in such a looong time lol IM sorry first of all :) I had a baby 6 months ago so hes taking up all my time for now , Ive turned to you for advice now as im at a loss

I always hated they type of ppl to get rid of there birds because of a baby , and what not but now I find myself in the same situation I love my bird with all of my heart and it would tare me up inside to have to let him go ! but I cant seem to find anything to help us , munch is a jardine parrot hes 4 years old and now an quite the character , since my son has been born he did not take well to this change and im aware that birds are not like dogs and cannot accept another person in the house ..I try to take him out as offten as i can but when i do he tries to find the baby to attack him and this kills me inside as i have to lock him up and give him sctriches through the cage bars ..

He has also made a habbit of screeching loaudly as soon as I put down the baby to sleep and I tried to reward him when he was quite but nothing has worked he screams and screams until baby wakes up and when he dose the bird goes back to eating and playing (like out of dispite) :( I want to keep him but i have no more rooms top change him into there all taken and he cant stand being in the living room so hes in the pc room with us ..

I dont know what to do , unfortunatley my son's health comes first and with otu naps hes a cranky non eating baby .. I feel like i have no choice to put him up for adoption would i be a bad parront for doing so ?

[loyallyroyal]

no you are not a bad parront, but you may want to exhaust your options first.

1. Have you tried contacting an bird trainer or bahaviorist? Someone on here has an animal communicator, might be a far stretch but while were exhausting options why not?

2. A busy bird is a happy bird, maybe a bigger cage, or foraging toys to keep him occupied while you are busy? Putting on a movie for him might work too, but if he is like Dewey you may have to endure some singing lol.

3. You didnt mention, when is birdy and mommy time? You know one on one time, even for 15min while the baby is napping.

4. Lots of people incorporate their pets into their household when I new baby comes, Birds are flock animals so eventually they will get used to each other existing in the same household, the problem is a pattern of jealousy has already formed.

Try making the baby a posive thing, like when the baby comes out give him treats through the bars and sing talk in a happy voice.

5. Is he flighted or clipped? If he is clipped, late at night when they are both sleepy you could have someone else hold the baby and shower your bird with attention while the baby is around.

6. When the baby is napping why not give him a shower? Then he will be quiet while he preens himself.

I really think you have jealous siblings, suddenly a new baby came and the old baby feels rather neglected. Same thing happens with siblings. I might be a bit biased though, try being the girl in the family that wanted a boy, you should of seen me when my brother came along. Infact I spent most of my time at my grandparents so I definitely sympathize with your parrot over there.

[xafsmom]

Keep in mind that birds are very empathic, especially old world birds. Your Jardine is going to not only feel jealous of the intruder, but feel YOUR anxiety. This is going to ratchet up the problem 10 fold. It's difficult to relax yourself, but you're going to have to do this before you reach for your bird or interact with him so he stops reacting off what he's reading from you.

The things mentioned by loyalroyal are all useful to try, definitely. But, if all does not go well, do not feel over-guilty for rehoming your bird. Sometimes things do not work out and in the long run, it's better to release the bird into the hands of someone who will make him happier than to keep him out of guilt.

[sweetie&meli]

Sorry I havent been on baby is quite the handful ..

Mommy 7 bird time is when baby naps I usually come to my office and play on the net .. I always talk to him and play things for him with sounds ..he also gets a peanut every morning since the day i got him ..Ive done all to make sure nothing for him changed ..

He hates loud noises and well babies will be loud lol poor thing I call him my taichi bird hes so chill and relaxed ..I do agree that he may feel my anxiety I will try to stay calm around him ..

I also bring baby up by his cage (far enough) so he can see him and he looks intrested but will puff up as soon as baby moves or makes a sound lol He is not clipped ATM as I didnt have time since I had baby ..I had a c-section so didnt have energy to move around.. its a 2 person job as he hates it so hubby will help me out on this so I can let him out ..

the other problem is his yelling ..if i open the closet door or move boxes around he flips out and screeches ..how do i make him stop ? I will do what ever I can to help this situation before it comes down to him leaving I love him too much to not try harder ..