bird obsessed with my daughter

[Abby]

I might be on my own on this one but will say it anyway.

I don't actually see a problem with just allowing Pauly and eitak's daughter to have a relationship that seems to suit both bird and child. I feel that by stopping it it's making the situation worse. If you want to label it then the daughter can be Pauly's special person rather then owner. Obviously at 4yo she's too young to take total responsibility but it could be a wonderful educational experience for her to help with Pauly's care.

As far as punishment goes, give me a break. Lets punish the bird (by whatever means) for liking someone else. Yeah, I can see the logic there, not.

[pippy]

Originally Posted by Abby

As far as punishment goes, give me a break. Lets punish the bird (by whatever means) for liking someone else. Yeah, I can see the logic there, not.

My thoughts exactly.

[joshbirdlover]

that is the way with my sun conure he will nip anybody trying to take him off my finger he is very fixed on me and nobody else but I to would say go with the flow on this one!

[Astrid660]

there's no way I can keep one of my cockatiels off my boyfriend. If she sees him, she flies to him, and if he's not in the room, she'll go searching!

One thing I've done that helps a bit is putting up sheer curtain so that she can't fly into the next room to look for him.

[Tx mommy]

Sorry I had to log off at work - I don't mean like spanking a kid but when our sun conure gets nippy with us we stop him by telling him no in a stearn voice and sometime wiggling our hand when he bites us there. Also he gets time outs - put in his cage, kind of like a 2 year old, nothing big or for very long just enouph to make them realise you not happy with what they did. Now its easy for us Rubix (the Sun) likes my husband the best so its easy for him to do the "NO NO's" a 4 year old might not understand that she has to tell her baby no for being bad. If she's like my older son when he was 4 she might enjoy being in charge of something. I'm still learning most of this myself. I'm very lucky though the bird center we purchased Rubix from answers all and any questions I have and this is what they told me to do. Hope this helps. Oh and don't forget lots of love, when they get back out of the cage. sorry for the length of this.

[Tx mommy]

And to clear things up I did not mean disclipine the bird for loving the daughter I think that's wonderful. I meant trying to deter it from hurting the rest of the people around her.

[SDavid]

"we stop him by telling him no in a stearn voice and sometime wiggling our hand when he bites us there. "

Just want to say that a bird may perceive any kind of "drama," such as what you describe, as a reward. If it follows a behavior you don't want you just might be reinforcing the unwanted behavior rather than helping to stop it. Birds respond to noise by making noise and to drama with their own drama because they follow what the flock does (remember youre the flock) and they think it's all a big party. So, although I don't know how your method is working for you, I would warn you that it might have the opposite effect from the one you intend. A dog understands "No" and our authority but birds are not programmed that way. Just an FYI and if youre interested, read up on Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA). Its a great way to redirect their behavior without making them fearfull of you.