tough decision- help?

[flyingfluff]

Background story

Over a month ago I responded to an ad on craigslist for a blue headed pionus- basically my dream bird.

Lady responded over a week later saying she had changed her mind and decided to keep the pi but was rehoming her sun and asked if I wanted to adopt him. I politely declined and moved on with my life.

Almost a month later I randomly wake up to an e-mail from her saying she changed her mind again has decided to rehome the blue headed pionus and did I still want her?

I said I needed to talk to my bf about it before I made any decisions, but I was interested.

Cue a lot of time in between e-mails and phone calls. She called while I was out to try and talk liguistics, we called her back to ask some questions and missed her, she called us back, etc etc.

I am currently dealing with my elderly budgie Coco and her vet bills. I have no idea how much longer she has so I'm just taking it a day at a time with her.

I finally made the hard decision to not take the bird in. I'm dealing with Coco and I'm still in college so I don't have the time/money for a large bird. Sent her an e-mail saying I couldn't take the pionus.

7:30 this morning we get another call from her saying the rehoming fee does not include the cage and if we had any other questions, also if we were still interested.


I have NO CLUE what to do. I felt like I had wiped my hands clean of this situation. But she's still contacting us. If there was one bird out there that I would want, that would be it. I've been dying to have a blue headed pi and I tried to make the responsible decision and decline. But now I don't know what to do.

Help? opinions? Do I go for it or not?

[KDK241]

I think if you feel like now is not the right time then you shouldn't do it. There will be other pi's when the time is right. I thought I wanted a pi when I went to go look at one but a similar situation happened, now I know it wasn't the right time and when Monty came along it was perfect.

That being said though when you do decide to get a pi you will love it! They are great birds.

[GlendaNS]

Originally Posted by flyingfluff

I finally made the hard decision to not take the bird in. Sent her an e-mail saying I couldn't take the pionus.

7:30 this morning we get another call from her saying the rehoming fee does not include the cage and if we had any other questions, also if we were still interested.

I have NO CLUE what to do. I felt like I had wiped my hands clean of this situation. But she's still contacting us.

Help? opinions? Do I go for it or not?

I wouldn't. Sounds like she is not ready to give the bird up. Plus, she is not listening to what you say. Something is wrong....

[amanda143]

I agree, something sounds fishy, or maybe she's just crazy? Either way, don't let her force you into something you aren't ready for.

[flyingfluff]

Yeah, the whole situation has been raising little red flags for me. I had one friend suggest that if I do go through with it, to make sure I get it all in writing because this woman has been so wishy-washy and this get a little shady with private adoptions. So if I did take the bird, I would want the woman to change her mind and try to take it back.

But yeah, after sleeping on it another night, I still feel the most comfortable with not taking the pionus. As Katie said, there will always be more pis. And when the time is right, I will find another or another will find me. Not sure how it works, lol.

Thanks for all of your help. :D

[monicaputka]

I can really relate to this situation...your heart is telling you to go for it, but your brain is telling you to take a second and really think it through. It sounds like you have done exactly that, and despite your best intentions, this lady is tugging at your heart strings and telling you to go ahead with it, even though you know that it isn't the right time for you. Take a step back...don't open any more emails from her (it will prevent you from any more second/third/fourth thoughts!!), and remember that when the time is right, you will find that perfect match for yourself.

[TooDusty]

If the seller anything like me, then she might only check her e-mail once every couple of days. Maybe she never got the e-mail. You can re-send an e-mail stating that you can't take the bird right now, or call and ask if she got the e-mail and apologize for taking up her time. Then if she calls or e-mails again, you can be sure she's a nutbag.

[flyingfluff]

Originally Posted by monicaputka

I can really relate to this situation...your heart is telling you to go for it, but your brain is telling you to take a second and really think it through. It sounds like you have done exactly that, and despite your best intentions, this lady is tugging at your heart strings and telling you to go ahead with it, even though you know that it isn't the right time for you. Take a step back...don't open any more emails from her (it will prevent you from any more second/third/fourth thoughts!!), and remember that when the time is right, you will find that perfect match for yourself.

That is exactly what is happening. But I feel better with the decision to not take the bird in, even though my heart is saying "get it! get it!". I know blue headed pionus aren't that uncommon, so when the time is right for me take one in, there will be another one.

[flyingfluff]

Originally Posted by TooDusty

If the seller anything like me, then she might only check her e-mail once every couple of days. Maybe she never got the e-mail. You can re-send an e-mail stating that you can't take the bird right now, or call and ask if she got the e-mail and apologize for taking up her time. Then if she calls or e-mails again, you can be sure she's a nutbag.

Haha, she's been horrible with communicating since day 1, so it is possible she only checks her e-mail and voice mail every few days. If I get another call or e-mail from her I will re-explain the situation and apologize for wasting her time. Bleh... I hate tough situations.