Dating and birds

[Vega]

Hey all, well he stopped to see me on his lunch break today and AGAIN brought up how he felt spending $600 on a bird is rediculous. I'm going to have to talk to him about this. I'm 27 and I just don't want to keep spending time on r/s's that I know won't get anywhere. If he wants to maintain a friendship that would be great. But the way he talks about "pets" is really starting to irk me.

[LivingFiction]

That may be why he's doing it. Because it's fun to get a rise out of you. Teasing is good.

[Kachina]

He thinks $600 on a bird is ridiculous? I guarantee he's got an expensive hobby or pastime, or that there's at least something out there he *would* spend that kind of $$$ on.

If he irks you now, he will irk you more later. Maybe the friendship talk is a good idea. He'll either agree or realize that they're more than just "pets" to you and he should take it a bit more seriously. Don't lose faith, there *are* good guys out there.

[birdyland]

Originally Posted by Kachina

He thinks $600 on a bird is ridiculous? I guarantee he's got an expensive hobby or pastime, or that there's at least something out there he *would* spend that kind of $$$ on.

If he irks you now, he will irk you more later. Maybe the friendship talk is a good idea. Don't lose faith, there *are* good guys out there.

Yeah, what she said exactly!

[birdsnthings]

I would go with what your bird tells you......
One customer adopted one of my GW's as I knew she was the perfect person for him. Well, one day he bit her boyfriend and she ended the relationship with the boyfrined.
My U2 was given to me because of a boyfriend. I didn't let my friend know I would have kept the bird instead. He is here, loved, protected with all the toys he could want let alone the attention......It was an ultimatum on boyfriend's part.
Another customer had a girlfriend who had a cat and she didn't like birds. While customer was trying to make frineds with her cat as he thought he should, she called his bird a "spoiled brat". He dumped the girlfriend.....
A relationship should be acceptance of not only you but also your birds. They are part of you and your life that make you happy.

[Tiki]

Money is one of the major causes in relationship tensions. If you have your own income, I don't see where he has any business telling you how to spend it. Like Kachina said, I bet he has an expensive hobby you would find ridiculous. You need to have mutual respect like Michael said about Jenny and his interest in martial arts. What are HIS interests anyway? Are there any that don't interest you?

[dino24]

I have to say that I haven't dated in a long time since I have been married for 17 years but I do kinda remember what its like. If you are already irked by him now then there is probably a very good reason. Your gut is telling you something. I would probably go with being friends cause he actually sounds like he may be a jerk or he may be just jerking your chain. People don't have to like everything the other person does as long as they can support the other persons likes along the way, like Michael and Jenny. You will find the right person and when you do you will know it.

[Crebain]

Originally Posted by Vega

...AGAIN brought up how he felt spending $600 on a bird is rediculous....the way he talks about "pets" is really starting to irk me.

Okay, I was wrong, he's obnoxious. Tell him I said so, then dump.

[Vega]

Thank you for all of the wonderful advice! I did bring things up to him yesterday and asked why it was such an issue. He said that he just doesn't know much about birds and figured a parrot would cost around $100, not $600. I asked him about tolerating being bitten as birds bite, it's bound to happen eventually. He said that I took his comments wrong, that he truely does love all animals but it's his inexperience with birds that is making it all come off wrong.

I'm still not sure though. Wish I could put my finger on what's wrong with this, but I've had doubts from the begining. These little things are only adding to it.

[The Outlaw]

I think he's just controlling, plain and simple. If you need "guidance" then by all means see him again. If however, you are all grown up, I'd say, adios.