Back in the dating scene... Just a short rant.

[CRToon83]

Haven't really told anyone this but for the past week i've put myself back into the dating scene by breaking up with my girlfriend. She's treated me like no girl ever has and loved me unconditionally... I just didn't feel anything for her. I finally realized that love isn't just being treated well. Much more to it. She's taken it well, but just doesn't want to talk to me for a while to straighten things out in her life. Respectable decision. I just really want to stay friends... she feels more like a best friend than a girlfriend.

Anyway, I had my first date tonight. I actually met her on eHarmony. She's a little young for me... 20 (i'm 25)... but she's pretty cool. I really enjoyed myself... and we were both were laughing a lot... at the end I got like half a hug and said it was great to meet her and she kinda just said "yea you too" and went to her car. Oh well.

I keep saying I don't want a girlfriend, but I like the comfort of having someone there, ya know? Times like this make me want to call up my ex and try and work things out, but I know that in a month or two i'm going to be back in the same place not feeling anything for her again.

Oh well, I'm just kinda ranting. Goodnight.

[Ashling]

What the hell dude my bf just broke up with me an hour ago for the same reason. That's really weird.

[FloorCandy]

Honestly the best thing you can look for in a relationship is a best friend. I can't imagine anything better than spending my life with my best friend. I hope everything works out for you, and you find happiness.

[chinniechantel]

Originally Posted by FloorCandy

Honestly the best thing you can look for in a relationship is a best friend. I can't imagine anything better than spending my life with my best friend. I hope everything works out for you, and you find happiness.

I 100% agree. I started off liking my husband as a friend...it soon turned into more and now I have a husband who is my best friend. You can't get much better than that. We enjoy the same things (animals!), the beach, comedy clubs, amusement parks, etc. and both hate bars and clubs and stuff like that. He goes with my to my bird lovers meeting even though he hates stuff like that, and is always there to talk to. You definitely need someone you love and want to be with, but having it start from best friend and letting it blossom can be a great thing. Have you tried bird clubs or any of those dating sites where you actually DO stuff like hiking and stuff like that in groups? I thought that would be a great way to meet new people that have similar interests.

[LovelySydney]

Im sorry to hear about all this break up news Break ups are always a bummer, Ive had my share. The dynamics of people change so much as they grow up - you change what you look for and what you like. I dated someone in college & we were going to get married and have 3 kids and move to Montana. He was my bf only and in no way my friend. My current bf is my best friend, we want no kids and I would never move to Montana!! LOL it just goes to show how much the things you want change as you get older.



I also 100% agree that having a friendship base makes the best relationship. My bf and I started out as friends and were friends for nearly 2 years before anything ever happened (he actually dated people I knew, go figure).

[CRToon83]

Originally Posted by Ashling

What the hell dude my bf just broke up with me an hour ago for the same reason. That's really weird.

I'm very sorry to hear that. You'll find someone better for you. Promise.

Originally Posted by FloorCandy

Honestly the best thing you can look for in a relationship is a best friend.

I've always felt this to be true, however you have to have feelings more than just friendship. I didn't. But a best friend usually shares a lot of common interests as well... and we didn't. Down to the point we could never really agree to what radio station to listen to... I usually just gave in and let her put on whatever she wanted lol.

[Jag]

Aww, Russell... I hope that both you and your g/f can move on and find what you're both looking for. All the better if you can manage to remain friends. I know what you mean. It has to 'be there'. Trying to keep on with something when you know that the 'foundation' isn't right is most times a waste of time. You're still young, still growing. It's not wrong to move forward as you change and grow... and there's NOTHING wrong with looking for someone who makes you feel like you're on the same wavelength. My wife and I have been together for a long time. We have our 7th wedding anniversary coming up next month! So it's been about 9 years... and it's only gotten better. Most of our interests are common interests.. with a few exceptions.

It may take you a long time to find 'the one'. She is my 'best friend' also... but a whole lot more than that, too. I've tried very hard to instill in my teens that they should never settle... or overlook the little voice in the back of their heads. It's nice to know that the person you're with is the only person you could ever imagine yourself with. Better yet when you're both thinking of the same thing even if you're nowhere near each other at the time! Saying the same exact thing at the same exact time is a little creepy...but after a few years of it happening it's less creepy. The heart 'knows' what's right and what isn't. Guilt can make you do stupid things.

Dating can be daunting (or so I've heard).. I suppose I'm lucky because dating is limited due to population for me... the bright side for you is you don't have to face the social stigmas or degrading comments for who you fall in love with. Just the 'normal' problems with finding a compatable mate! Good luck to you... and remember you're still young!! You'll find Ms. Right...just take your time and don't 'settle' just to keep from being alone. Remember, you have Amira to keep you company until then! It will find you when you're not expecting it. Good luck!

[LovelySydney]

Jag, its nice to see you back

[Jag]

Originally Posted by LovelySydney

Jag, its nice to see you back

Thanks... we'll see how long it lasts.

[xafsmom]

Originally Posted by CRToon83

Haven't really told anyone this but for the past week i've put myself back into the dating scene by breaking up with my girlfriend. She's treated me like no girl ever has and loved me unconditionally... I just didn't feel anything for her. I finally realized that love isn't just being treated well. Much more to it. She's taken it well, but just doesn't want to talk to me for a while to straighten things out in her life. Respectable decision. I just really want to stay friends... she feels more like a best friend than a girlfriend.

Anyway, I had my first date tonight. I actually met her on eHarmony. She's a little young for me... 20 (i'm 25)... but she's pretty cool. I really enjoyed myself... and we were both were laughing a lot... at the end I got like half a hug and said it was great to meet her and she kinda just said "yea you too" and went to her car. Oh well.

I keep saying I don't want a girlfriend, but I like the comfort of having someone there, ya know? Times like this make me want to call up my ex and try and work things out, but I know that in a month or two i'm going to be back in the same place not feeling anything for her again.

Oh well, I'm just kinda ranting. Goodnight.

AWWW! Don't be discouraged by the "yea you too" thing. She's probably feeling insecure. Give her another chance! Never go by the first date thing.

/hugs