Wow... didn't expect that...

[Ashling]

How do you get rid of that painful twisted knot in your stomach that won't go away no matter what you do? And how can you get food to stop having the consistency of wet sand in your mouth and get your appetite back?

[Jag]

Originally Posted by Ashling

How do you get rid of that painful twisted knot in your stomach that won't go away no matter what you do? And how can you get food to stop having the consistency of wet sand in your mouth and get your appetite back?

Just time... Keeping yourself busy with other things may help. When you're 'in it' there just isn't really anything anyone can say that helps. However, looking back on it later you may see it as a growing experience or realize that you gained by it ending and moving on. I can't say that in the beginning, though, that makes any sense at all. Sorry you're feeling so awful right now.

[MissV]

Originally Posted by Ashling

How do you get rid of that painful twisted knot in your stomach that won't go away no matter what you do? And how can you get food to stop having the consistency of wet sand in your mouth and get your appetite back?

Jag needs to quit being right, but she is.

Honestly? It's been since Easter for me that the break up happened, but the truth is I was letting go awhile before that. Some part of me knew this guy wasn't it for me and it wouldn't last. I thought that it was just my general distrust but...the heart knows. It really does.


Anyway, yeah..it's time. I got onto my mac mini, which I don't use as much as my vaio, the other day and found a whole host of pictures I hadn't yet deleted. The worst part is that they were from the first year of the relationship when things were (mostly) awesome. I got all teary and angry and cursed at his pictures and then cursed Apple for being stupid and not having an easy way to access your scanners and cameras (uh, I was trying to get the stupid scanner to work which would be why I was in there in the first place...)

So, not quite 7 months out, and I'm still occasionally thinking about the guy and feeling the pain of the break up. It takes a long while, but eventualy it gets less, and then it fades...and every now and then you get upset because you remember the good times and just hate that that person couldn't be everything you needed them to be....but you accept that you can't change that and move on.


But still, one way I look at it is that now that that relationship has ended, I have the opportunity for a fresh start. I have the oportunity to not settle and (hopefully!) not be deceived and get the romance and treatment that I want and no I'm deserving of.

Seriously, I am NOT staying with another guy that doesn't have a daggom ounce of romance in his entire body, no matter HOW cute he is. Because...that's just something I refuse to go without. It's that kind of treatment that lets you know that someone is really thinking about making you happy and that's a great sign of love.


On the other hand, I vow to stop being attracted to the biggest jerk in the room. Just because they're amusing does NOT mean they will be like that for very long.